I have read many different books & articles regarding behavior over the years.
The method that I like best, is first explaining to your child not to do the behavior, then give them a warning.
It they repeat the behavior, (hitting, biting, pushing, taking something that isn’t theirs, etc.), then they sit either on the step, a chair, ottoman, or space on a couch.
To me a bedroom is NOT a place for punishment, because it is a place they associate with rest. Also it is a place they should respect, and take care of. If they are sent to their room for bad behavior, then they won’t associate it with a happy place I feel.
For small children ages 2-5, I like the bottom step of a staircase, or a pillow.
Ages 6+, I like the couch or an ottoman.
Having a child sitting on a floor is degrading to me, that is why I like the areas above.
For small children who are learning what a Time Out is all about, I like sitting next to them and set a timer for their age. (Age 2 sits for 2 minutes and so forth.)
An egg timer or microwave timer works best, I think.
If your child gets up and runs away, say, “Time Out is not over!”, and put them back on their spot.
In the midst of a child who is inconsolable, I suggest sitting next to them.
It is important to not say too much, during a tantrum, because children don’t hear what you are saying I feel.
Afterwards, it is import to talk to your child about why they were sitting there. I always explain that I love them, but it is not okay to to what they did.
I have been doing this for over eight years, and feel that this method is most effective.
Children need to have boundaries, and it needs to be taught at an early age. It can be difficult the first few times, then children adapt and get it.