Want to know what to say to your child if they hear about today’s tragic event in Connecticut?

First I want to extend my heartfelt condolences to all of those families who lost their child today.

There are no words, I can say but that they are angels in heaven.

The event that transpired today is unimaginable, and one in which WILL effect many children!

As a former educator, I can honestly say that if your child comes home and asks you questions, less is better.

The most important thing they need to know is that they are safe, and loved.

Children may be curious, scared, angry, upset or show other emotions. It is critical that you listen to their feelings, and explain things in a simplified way, depending on their age of course.

Death is part of life, and children need to have an understanding during a crisis, if they ask.

All schools are offering counseling services next week, so please make your child’s classroom teacher aware if your child needs to seek services.

Another tip is to try NOT to watch the news, or read the newspaper while your children are around. It is not necessary for young children to watch the replay, or see pictures of today’s tragic event.

Be there for your child, listen to what they have to say if they bring it up, & again, God bless all those angels, & their families.

Take it from a Mom Who is deeply saddened today. 🙁

Want a cute tooth fairy idea?

Then head to Barns & Noble, or order a copy of, “Silverlicious”, by Victoria Kann!

I am a big believer that books are a great learning tool, and this story is adorable!

It is about a little girl named, Pinkalicious, who is impatient waiting for the tooth fairy, & thinks she lost her sweet tooth.

She later learns than sweetness comes from within, & is so exited when the tooth fairy finally leaves her silver chocolate coins.

My Mom Who Knows tip…

Sprinkle glitter on your child’s nightstand, add 3 chocolate coins, a pack of gum, & whatever dollar amount you want to give.

(This idea can be used for both boys and girls.)

This is a great time to purchase chocolate coins because they sell them during Chanukah.

All supermarkets, card stores, pharmacies, Target & Walmart carry them as well.

Enjoy another great idea!

Take it from a Mom Who Knows!

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Want an effective way for a , “Time Out”?

Then choose a safe area in your home!

I have read many different books & articles regarding behavior over the years.

The method that I like best, is first explaining to your child not to do the behavior, then give them a warning.

It they repeat the behavior, (hitting, biting, pushing, taking something that isn’t theirs, etc.), then they sit either on the step, a chair, ottoman, or space on a couch.

To me a bedroom is NOT a place for punishment, because it is a place they associate with rest. Also it is a place they should respect, and take care of. If they are sent to their room for bad behavior, then they won’t associate it with a happy place I feel.

For small children ages 2-5, I like the bottom step of a staircase, or a pillow.

Ages 6+, I like the couch or an ottoman.

Having a child sitting on a floor is degrading to me, that is why I like the areas above.

For small children who are learning what a Time Out is all about, I like sitting next to them and set a timer for their age. (Age 2 sits for 2 minutes and so forth.)

An egg timer or microwave timer works best, I think.

If your child gets up and runs away, say, “Time Out is not over!”, and put them back on their spot.

In the midst of a child who is inconsolable, I suggest sitting next to them.

It is important to not say too much, during a tantrum, because children don’t hear what you are saying I feel.

Afterwards, it is import to talk to your child about why they were sitting there. I always explain that I love them, but it is not okay to to what they did.

I have been doing this for over eight years, and feel that this method is most effective.

Children need to have boundaries, and it needs to be taught at an early age. It can be difficult the first few times, then children adapt and get it.

Enjoy!

Take it from a Mom Who Knows!

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Want a great fun way to get your kids to behave?

Then tell your kids about the, “Magic Camera” that is!

Whether it be in the car, at home, in a resturant, store or outside, I tell my children that the alarm, vents, lights in the car, are hidden cameras for Santa, Hermie, Our Elf on the Shelf, The Tooth Fairy, Leprechaun Elves, the Easter Bunny, the police, Nanny Mac Pfee & the Birthday Fairy!

The cameras are on always recording good and bad behavior. Every time your child does something inappropriate, a gift is taken off the list. When they do a good deed, something is added to the list.

So every time your child sees something in a store, in a magazine, or on television, take a picture with your phone.

At night I delete pictures off the list if their behavior is not what it should be.

Also I type a note to one of my children complimenting them with great behavior once in a while, and leave it next to their bed. When they wake up, they are surprised & excited to continue to have good behavior.

My reasoning behind this is that sonetimes, “Time Out” just doesn’t work, so this is another tool that CAN work!

Enjoy a fun way to gain good behavior!

Take it from a Mom Who Knows!

Please continue to help those who are in need from Hurricane Sandy!

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Want to shop with your kids in PEACE?

Then follow my simple tips!

1.) If you are shopping in a mall, LEAVE the coats in the car, less to carry.

2.) Wear a backpack pocketbook, to keep your hands free for packages.

3.) Bring prepackaged snacks, & small water bottles. -This prevents, “Mommy I’m hungry!”

4.) Keep a ziplock bag filled with small toys like matchbox cars, Lalaloopsy dolls, small Disney figures, Thomas trains, playdoh, wikkistix, etc., so you can hand them a variety of things.

5.) Bring a small umbrella stroller.
I purchased a small stroller in Babies R Us that I keep in my car, for my 5 year old. This helps me zip in an out of stores without, “Mommy I am tired!”

6.) Have a plan! I usually keep a list on my phone of things I need to get, this makes my life easier, as well as my kids too!

7.) Explain to your children where you are going, and what you need to get.
This prevents the, “I want this!” comment. This way your child knows what you are going to the store for, and that it is not about impulse shopping.

8.) Bring Ring Pops! They take a long time to eat, or Lollipops. I save those for the last resort, lol!

These tips have worked for me for almost nine years, & I wanted to share them with you!

Take it from a Mom Who Knows!

Please continue to help those who are in NEED from Hurricane Sandy!

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Want a great way to keep track of your child’s belongings?

Keep a Sharpie in your bag, diaper bag, & car!

I LOVE these, and they are more useful more than you know!

In the car I label umbrellas, sports gear, ballet items, bottles & snacks when I carpool.

On the go it is great to have to label items when you go the park.

Since children have the many of the same small toys, scooters, helmets, etc., this alleviates possible fights.

You never know when you have to label something, so throw one in your bag today!

Take it from a Mom Who Knows!

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Want to know when to take your child to the ER?

Go with your instinct!

Yesterday our daughter was bitten by a mosquito.

Her arm was swollen, hot to the touch and blistered.

I gave her Benedryl & ice compresses and put her to bed.

She woke up 4 hours later, and it had gotten bigger and she was complaining of itchiness.

I called her doctor, and decided to take her to the ER.

My husband thought I was overreacting, my my gut told me to take her there!

We did go, & she did have a bad allergic reaction to a mosquito. The doctor put her on Benedryl, a steroid, & cold compresses for a few days.

The point of this, is that when your gut tells you as a parent to react, go with what you feel!

Take it from a Mom Who Knows!

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Want a cute idea to celebrate the 1st week of school?

Have a, “Milk & Cookie Social”!

This the 3rd year I have done this in my neighborhood and it continues to grow!

All you need is the following:

1.) Bucket of ice for containers of milk (I get a variety, due to allergies & dietary needs)

2.) Small bottles of water

3.) Prepackaged cookies (Great idea for children with allergies, as well as portion control)

4.) Prepackaged sliced apples

5.) Hand wipes/Sanitizer gel

6.) Coffee & plastic cups for the kids

7.) Sharpie marker to write your child’s name on the cup

8.) Napkins

9.) Condiments for the coffee (Sugar, Splenda, Stevia, creamer)

10.) Coffee (Either an urn, or a Box of Joe from your local coffee house- easiest!)

11.) Plastic table cloth (from any 99 cents store)

12.) Bubbles

13.) Folding table, if your park or playground doesn’t have one

Normally I have a red & green back to school theme, but I sponsored it this year.

This is easy to do…

Have each parent bring one of the following to a local park, & instant party!

This is a great way for children to make new friends, have a fun large play date in a local park, is a great way for parents to discuss the upcoming school year, & more importantly the kids have fun!

When parents are excited about school, their kids are too!

Take it from a Mom Who Knows!

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Want to know if your child needs glasses, has a hearing impairment, & is up to date?

Make appointments!

As a former educator it took mid-year to see there were issues with some of my students.

Whether it be vision or hearing, it affected their school work. That is why I feel that having these things screened in September is the way to go!

These 5 things is on my list to do for this month:

1.) Make an appointment with a Pediatric eye doctor & ENT to have a hearing test done.

2.) Make a dentist appointment & have the dentist discuss the importance of brushing & flossing.

3.) Update school forms, & send in any medications your child might need (allergy, etc.)

4.) Call your pediatrician to see if all immunizations are up to date.

5.) Write or type a schedule on your computer, of your child’s schedule for the year. This makes each week easier, trust me!

Take it from a Mom Who Knows!

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Want to get more for your money?

Stock up & save!

From July until the end of September, most stores have amazing sales!

Since most expiration dates are long, it is a great way to buy a few boxes or bags of your favorite snacks.

As for school supplies, I would buy an extra folder, pencils/pens, crayons, glue, markers, construction & lined paper, because after this month, the prices go right back up.

It may seem a bit much, but in the long run it is worth it!

Take it from a Mom Who Knows

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